HOW TO STAY CONNECTED
ACROSS DECADES AND DISTANCE
Annie Evans Trotta & Natasha Diemer
Annie Evans Trotta and Natasha Diemer met at 14, in a high school journalism class. They've stayed best friends in the intervening decades, despite fast-moving careers, distance, and the pressures of daily life. How do they do it? In short: loyalty, recognizing the little moments, and Commute Calls (#genius).
Small Packages: What was the first thing you remember really liking about each other?
Annie: Her carefree, adventurous magnetic spirit. She was the kinda gal you wanna go on adventures with. That was what initially drew me, but then I quickly realized that while she was spontaneous and tons of fun, she also completely had her sh*t together: she got me my first job hostessing at an Italian restaurant.
Natasha: My very first impression was that she was incredibly beautiful and clearly had no idea. 25 years later, that has not changed. Her beauty radiates from the inside out. She is unassuming, approachable, deeply empathetic and has always been true to herself. With Annie, there are never any pretenses, what you see is what you get, and she is pure goodness.
Small Packages: Now that you've been friends for a while, what's the thing that holds you together? Why has your friendship lasted?
Annie: We totally have each other's back 100% and are super loyal. I slept on her couch for a year on and off when I was in the throes of launching a startup. When that venture went south, she was there with a bottle of The Pinot Project (our fave) and a hug. We are both great listeners with zero judgement, so despite us living far away, we always know we have a safe place if we need to vent or want to celebrate a big win. We also always show up for each other in the big milestones of life: birthdays, baby showers, weddings.Natasha: I would credit Annie with our friendship surviving 25 years. We went to different colleges, and after graduation, she moved to the big city while I went to the small town. Eventually we both ended up in NYC. Through all the transitions in life, through all the pivotal moments that shape who we become as women, wives, mothers, and executives, Annie has always been my true north. She never fails to be there for the moments, big or small. She is unfailingly thoughtful, and never allows a moment to go unappreciated. No matter what I have faced in life, be it a first date or a game changing presentation, she remembers.
I slept on Natasha's couch for a year on and off when I was in the throes of launching a startup. When that venture went south, she was there with a bottle of The Pinot Project and a hug.
Small Packages: Tell us something about your girl that she'd be too modest to share. Brag about her a little!
Annie: She throws a helluva party and is the hostess with the mostess. She's also super ninja with an Excel spreadsheet.
Natasha: She invests deeply in people. The greatest gift you can give is your time. I know how much of her time she has invested in me over the decades. I also know that I'm one of many people who receive that gift. Annie will take the shoes of her feet and go barefoot through the streets of NYC, if she believes those shoes will give you the confidence to nail your next meeting.
Annie will take the shoes of her feet and go barefoot through the streets of NYC, if she believes those shoes will give you the confidence to nail your next meeting.
Small Packages: How do you stay connected? (Give us tips!!!)
Annie: We call each other while walking to and from work to catch up even if we have 10 minutes to say hello. Quick frequent check-ins are better then going for months.
Natasha: She calls. Always. And I answer. Almost always. She knows the time that works in my commute and makes it a point to be available then. She puts forth the effort. We are all incredibly busy. Personal time is almost nonexistent and making time for friends seems impossible. But Annie always makes the effort. She has taught me what it means when someone REALLY cares. And I know I am a better woman because of our friendship.